So, today we’re talking about the ‘B’ word –

BOUNDARIES

I know what you’re  thinking, “This wasn’t the ‘B’ word I was think of.”

It’s not. But it is a better version that deserves our attention.

Ever wonder why setting boundaries feels so challenging? Here are a few reasons:

• You feel guilty saying no to someone or a group of someone’s.
• You don’t want to disappoint others.
• You’ve learned to put others first, so you won’t appear selfish.
• You’re afraid of what people will think about you.

I can check every one of those boxes off!

Setting boundaries is about prioritizing yourself. If you’re not on your list of things to take care of, you probably won’t have the energy or desire to help someone else. Setting boundaries is  about embracing the power of saying yes to your own well-being before it starts to wear thin. Or worse, wears out.

I think another reason we struggle with setting boundaries is it feels aggressive, bossy, or defensive.

If that’s been your experience, you’re not alone. I’ve felt that way too. What I’ve learned is setting boundaries allows me to be the best version of myself. When I’m doing things that resonate with me and conserve or reserve my energy, I’m more relaxed, happier and better equipped to help others when the time is right for both of us.

This is the kindest thing we can do for ourselves. And if you’re not accustomed to being kind to yourself, this is your opportunity to noodle that.

Something I read recently said:

If it’s not a big, resounding yes — it’s a no.

And that’s okay.

You don’t need to explain yourself. You don’t need to apologize. You don’t need to feel guilty.

Not sure where to begin?

Try these small steps:

• Notice where in your day you feel resentment, frustration, or exhaustion. These are signs that your boundaries might be fading.
  
• Start by gently saying no to a minor request. Each small “no” strengthens your confidence and builds your boundary-setting muscles.

Here’s a quick example:
Lisa, 51, was used to saying yes to everything — even when it drained her.
One day, she said “no” to a friend who wanted to spend the weekend at her beachside camper. She offered midweek instead when her schedule was more flexible so she could leave time for her husband who came on the weekends. She told me her decision felt strange… but also brought instant relief.

This small boundary sparked bigger changes. She began protecting her time and energy and started feeling better about herself.

Did it feel weird for a while? Sure, it did. But she said the relief she has when she graciously declines something that doesn’t fit with her life at that moment, is worth the mild discomfort of strengthening her new habit.

Embracing boundaries is the start of your journey towards self-care and empowerment. It means kindly honoring your needs and energy. Begin with small steps and notice how these shifts can bring positive changes to your life.

Saying “yes” to yourself is the key to living a balanced and fulfilling life.

It’s also the opportunity to leave resentments, frustrations, and exhaustion behind. Keep practicing and celebrate each step you take forward!

Feel like diving deeper into setting boundaries and saying yes to yourself?

Schedule a discovery call today, and let’s explore how you can create a life that truly reflects your priorities and passions. Book Your Discovery Call Now!

Cheers to living with passion!

Dr. Kat